The Misunderstood
Has it ever occured to you that many of us are misunderstood daily? We might not even realise it, but we are...And at times like these, we really have to depend on our friends to defend us...I think many people, including myself, are too quick to judge people...I feel that sometimes, we are too quick to form our impressions of others, and our simple impression of someone can be further reaffirmed by anything that happens next...Whether or not the thing that happens next actually is supporting your formed impression...For example, If you had an impression that some1 was gay, and he puts his hand over the shoulder of another guy, you would confirm that he is gay...However, if you happen to see some1 else put his hand over another guy's shoulder, you would think that they were either buddies or really good friends...rite? Okay...bad example...but you get the idea...I feel that despite me saying this, It is just human nature to be like this...I may realise it now and think that it is not an entirely great attribute, but then I would go off tmr and unconciously judge people...even if I dun say it to some1 else...its just happens in my mind...We humans are to quick to judge people, and make up their minds of what someone is like before they actually know that someone personally and understand them...don't you think?They say that before you judge someone for what they do you should always walk a mile in their shoes, and that way if they wanted to get back and you they'd be barefoot and a mile away? Ok..the second part is out of point but doesnt it make sense that we should try to understand why people do things instead of jumping to conclusions and assuming why they are doing it? Assuming does make an ass out of you and me...
Furthermore, we tend to listen to only 1 side of the story most of the time...And we just form our impression from what some1 else has told us, whether or not he/she is actually trustworthy? In this case, the 1st person who tells you actually is the one that your impression is based on...whether or not that person is right...For example, if A bitches to you about B, and B tries to explain to you about what A has bitched about and bitches to you about A instead, you are more likely to trust A and think that B is trying to get back at A, even if A was the true bitch...until you see for your own eyes that A is the true bitch...So in this sense, time is the most important factor isnt it? I feel that regardless of the status of A or B in your friendship, 1 should always be partial and always be open to both sides of the story, Even if A is closer to you as a friend, and B is some1 you hate, we should not jump to conclusions that A is correct, because there are always 2 sides to a coin, and even best friends make mistakes sometimes...What I believe is that we should never really be sure of what that person is until we truely see it for our own eyes...however...this is easier said than done...and if we were able to do that, we'd probably be saints with a church under our name...
You may ask what has this gotta do with being misunderstood? Well, first impressions really do count and we often misunderstand people from our impression of them...We often take the wrong meaning of what is being done or said based on our 1st impressions...or take it in the wrong direction even if the person is straightforward...therefore, we often misunderstand people and get misunderstood...It is inevitable to be misunderstood, and what is important is to clear these misunderstandings...
It is not the way of the Jedi to deal absolutes...but why did yoda say:" do or do not...there is no try..."
Furthermore, we tend to listen to only 1 side of the story most of the time...And we just form our impression from what some1 else has told us, whether or not he/she is actually trustworthy? In this case, the 1st person who tells you actually is the one that your impression is based on...whether or not that person is right...For example, if A bitches to you about B, and B tries to explain to you about what A has bitched about and bitches to you about A instead, you are more likely to trust A and think that B is trying to get back at A, even if A was the true bitch...until you see for your own eyes that A is the true bitch...So in this sense, time is the most important factor isnt it? I feel that regardless of the status of A or B in your friendship, 1 should always be partial and always be open to both sides of the story, Even if A is closer to you as a friend, and B is some1 you hate, we should not jump to conclusions that A is correct, because there are always 2 sides to a coin, and even best friends make mistakes sometimes...What I believe is that we should never really be sure of what that person is until we truely see it for our own eyes...however...this is easier said than done...and if we were able to do that, we'd probably be saints with a church under our name...
You may ask what has this gotta do with being misunderstood? Well, first impressions really do count and we often misunderstand people from our impression of them...We often take the wrong meaning of what is being done or said based on our 1st impressions...or take it in the wrong direction even if the person is straightforward...therefore, we often misunderstand people and get misunderstood...It is inevitable to be misunderstood, and what is important is to clear these misunderstandings...
It is not the way of the Jedi to deal absolutes...but why did yoda say:" do or do not...there is no try..."
posted by Melly at 11:33 AM
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